It was brought to my attention last weekend that it might behoove me to stop thinking, let my mind be quiet and enjoy being in a moment of pleasure. Right. This is the Achilles heel of my yoga practice off the mat. To be able to quiet my mind and follow my heart, my intuition; to trust myself and to be free from worry about what others (and sometimes even questioning myself!) might think of my decisions, choices or life in general, has a way of interfering with my inner peace off my mat. As I have said time and time again, the practice of yoga off the mat is really where the practice begins. It is easier for me to come to my mat, breathe, put myself in sometimes difficult positions and not really over think about how I arrived there and what I am going to do once I get there. I follow my breath, I honor where I am, I am inspired by the yogis around me and I practice. I am well aware that the practice ON the mat TEACHES me to learn, trust, explore and evolve OFF the mat as well. This is the continued practice of yoga.
But, THIS is not about the practice (well, everything sort of is, but this blog is not directly about it-although I am seeing the parallel). I can’t seem to get a particular sentence out of my head from one of my favorite female bloggers and humans, Chani Nicholas, “The reality is that the most of the prototypes for romantic love that we were handed by our cultures and our society are simply blueprints for massive disappointment”. I tend to agree. I think about the expectations society, our peers, our family even, place on where we should be at a certain age; whether it be job, relationship status, children, etc. You name it, there is an idea of when it should happen or should HAVE happened from someone. Add to that, our own analysis about where we think our relationships should be and what they shouldn’t be at any point in time; 3 months, 3 years, 30 years. We might ask ourselves if the flirting and courting has faded-can we keep it alive? When, if ever, is it acceptable for *us*to be ok with that being less or nonexistent? Are we happy? Could we be happier with someone else? As couples who find themselves drifting apart, they might ask themselves if they would even want to find out if they could be happy with someone else. Does the benefit outweigh the risk? As a single person who is dating, I can now understand a little more how difficult it can be to make the decision to end a relationship for your own good, for the good of the children, if you have them. At the end of all the questions and possibilities, I believe we all have the answer for ourselves inside of us. It may take a while to come out. But it is in there and when we are ready, we will know it and we will know what to do.
This is not to say it will be easy. It is hard work for one to be honest with oneself. However, it is most rewarding and it is truly a gift of love for ourselves and for others to be true to ourselves and follow the path that is only ours; no matter the twists, turns, ups, downs, and inside outs.
May this find you on your path to yourself. May love and light always guide you. May your practice ON the mat, enhance your experiences OFF the mat. And if you don’t have a yoga practice, may you find and flow with what is your practice for your inner peace.